♡This blog post is going to have a slightly more informal tone than you may be used to on this blog. I would love for this post to provide genuine comfort and advice for those who may be feeling a little apprehensive about their big adventure moving to university. Enjoy!♡
I don't know about you, but before I went to university I found myself reading countless blog posts and watching endless youtube videos in order to feel somewhat prepared. Despite this, when I got to university there was definitely a few things I was not prepared for and really wish I knew before I went. So, I have decided to make a mini university survival guide, filled with tips and tricks to make this very, very strange time just that little bit simpler:
1. Keep your door open: If you are going to bring one thing to university, bring a door stop. It can be difficult trying to say hello to everyone whilst you are carrying your life down the corridor, but by keeping your door open it lets your flatmates know they are welcome to come in. It might also be worth bringing a box of sweets or baking some cakes - my flatmates really appreciated when I baked and decorated cupcakes throughout the year, so it could be a lovely way to introduce yourself.
2. You do not need to pack EVERYTHING: For the first term only pack your winter clothes; if you are going home for the Christmas holidays you can always pack some lighter clothes then. Also, many essentials will be available to buy when you are in the city. Save some room in the car and wait until you arrive before stocking up on toiletries.
3. Buy secondhand text books...and not all of them: University textbooks can costs £100s, however if you dig around you can buy secondhand versions for a fraction of the price. Also, appreciate the recommended in "recommended reading". You will not be examined directly from a certain textbook, so only buy the ones that suit your reading preferences the most.
4. Register with the university doctor ASAP: The first time you are properly ill whilst away from home can be quite upsetting. If you know are you registered with a doctor it really will help to make things that little bit easier.
5. Remember your key: I have been locked out from my halls. I have been to rescue my friends who are locked out and forgotten to take my key in the process, resulting in us both being locked out - have you ever heard of anything more "me"? So please, for the love of god, remember your key.
BONUS TIP (I hate to disrupt the power of 5 but i cannot leave this out!) If given the choice, choose a higher up fridge shelf and a room far away from the kitchen: This stops other people’s food spilling onto yours, and being away from the kitchen will make a HUGE difference to your peace and quiet.
1. Do not feel like you have to go out every single night: Just because something is going on every night doesn't mean you have to go out every night. Just because your flatmates are going out, doesn't mean you have to! I personally went out with my flatmates a few nights, a few chilled nights with my friend, Harriet, who I knew from home, and a night over at my boyfriend's campus. How many nights you attend is entirely up to you; at university peer pressure probably won't be as bad as you think - and if it is, you have plenty of time to meet other people who are more on your wavelength.
2. ALWAYS have an emergency £10 on you: Many universities are located directly in the city centre, meaning you can walk from place to place easily. If this is the case, please still keep an emergency £10 on you at all times. Keep it in your phone case or in a bag that you always take with you. This is still a new place for you (probably) and whether you lose your new friends, miss the last bus home or have a change of plans that need a taxi, you never know when you might just need some cash.
3. Check the society nights out: If drinking isn’t really your thing but you still want to get out and meet new people, have a good look at all the society events. During freshers week most societies will allow anyone and everyone to join, regardless of interest or membership, and will have a huge variety of events -trips to IKEA, buffet meals out, cinema trips, etc. This is a great way to meet new people who are just like you. (Side note: all of the sports/dance/music classes will have taster sessions during freshers. They are usually free and I would definitely encourage you to try them out. They can be SO much fun.)
Explore, Explore, Explore
The concept of moving away to a new place for university is certainly discussed a lot, however I do feel like the new opportunities to explore are often overlooked. Challenge yourself to find the hidden gems of a new city, places that aren’t signposted on all the maps. I am studying in Nottingham, and here are just a couple of examples of some hidden gems I discovered in my university city.
Pepper Rocks is a “secret hideaway” cocktail bar with retro decor, hot dogs & chicken wings and a dreamy cocktail menu. My sweet tooth was particularly attracted to the candy cocktails - cherry bakewells and drumstick lollies all round! The atmosphere of this bar makes you forget you are in a busy city at all, for you are hidden in a cosy (and safe) alleyway, surrounded by spinning vinyls, live music and all the paradise vibes. Intimate, yet perfectly lively. This was the first night out me and my closest university friends, Ella and Lydia, had as a trio and it was the perfect place to be.
I am a huge Disney lover so my heart burst with excitement when I discovered an Alice in Wonderland themed cafe. It is one of the most unique places I have seen. My friend, Rachel, and I actually got lost trying to find it because it is literally “down a rabbit hole”. The waiters/waitresses are all dressed as characters, as customers we are all given hats to wear, and all of the decor is wonderfully mad. I do believe there are character performances and sing-songs during weekends too. It is a place full of character - a little gem hidden in the big city.
So there you have it, my mini university survival guide! Thank you so much for reading - please leave any comments or questions you might have about university, or of course feel free to message me directly. I would love to chat to you and make sure you are good to go for your big adventure! And please remember, if university doesn't turn out to be the "time of your life" please don't worry. I really do like university, but I don't "time of my life" LOVE university, and that is completely okay. Look after yourself and always do what is best for you in that situation.♡
Hello and welcome to this instalment of my "sleep phenomenas" series. In this post I will be discussing the captivating experience of sleep paralysis.
The sleep phenomenom I am going to discuss in this post is sleep paralysis. This is an (often terrifying) experience whereby the self is in a state of consciousness yet unable to move or speak. This occurs during falling asleep or waking up, and can be explained by the brain waking up whilst the physical body remains in an atonic state (a state where the body's motor functions are relaxed to prevent sleepers from acting out their dreams). It is most likely to happen to young adults, especially those who suffer from sleep deprivation, stress/mental health disorders, or interestingly those who sleep on their back (this last one has definitely given me some experiences!)
Sleep paralysis is often accompanied by hallucinations; typically demonic, with people frequently reporting sensing or "seeing" a harmful presence in the room, such as a tall dark figure.
I personally have experienced sleep paralysis on numerous occasions, with hallucinations every single time. On the first occasion, whilst falling asleep I heard my wardrobe door opening. I ignored this, passing it off as a breeze, until a very ghost-like figure climbed from the wardrobe and stood at the end of my bed. I recall trying to scream for my dad (at this point I believed it to be a genuine person OR a ghost), which is when I realised I physically could not communicate - I tried running from my bed, however was paralysed.. After a short while I believed my dad had been into my room to comfort me - it wasn't until I saw "myself" standing at the end of my bed telling me that "this isn't over yet" that I realised the paralysis was still happening. I then believed I had finally managed to open my eyes and that I had woken up - until yet another hallucination of "myself" was in front of me warning me that it still wasn't over despite the original hallucination telling me it was. By the end of the paralysis I had seen a ghostly figure and about five or six figures stood next to each other that were identical to myself. This felt like it had lasted for ages, whilst in reality it had been only 10 minutes since I had attempted to fall asleep.
It's not all scary...
Despite the denomic stigma attached to sleep paralysis hallucinations, there has been reports of comforting or enjoyable experiences. These include hallucinations of a couple of cheery men with guitars serenading the sleeper, playing music that the individual described as pure joy. When the individual began to wake up, the singing men said "she is waking, it is time to go" and left them in a state of peace and serenity. I have also hallucinated Finn Balor's "Demon King" purely from speaking to my WWE-loving boyfriend; whilst this was vaguely in keeping with the demon theme, it was rather amusing knowing who "it" actutally was...you can certainly get some good stories to tell your friends!
For me personally, I am very easily able to explain my experiences. My first experience happened very close to moving up to university; my stress levels had obviously increased, and I was lacking sleep. I also had a stage of frequent sleep paralysis around the time of my exams - again, increased stress and decreased sleep. If you do ever experience it, please remember that it will only last a short period of time: it is harmless...and you probably just need a little more sleep!
Thank you so much for reading - please do feel free to leave any comments so we can discuss your thoughts and experiences below! This is one of the first posts of a mini series of sleep phenomenas: the next instalment will be discussing the eery phenomenon of "Night Terrors". In the mean time, if you would like to read my post about "Dream Symbolism and Recurring Dreams" please click the link below.
Hello and welcome to the first instalment of my "sleep phenomenas" series. In this post I will be discussing dream symbolism and recurring dreams.
Whilst the extent I believe that dreams have logical meaning is questionable, I cannot deny my huge interest in dream symbolism. This inspired me to put together a mini "dream bible" discussing some popular dreams symbols experienced by people all over the world, and how these dreams may relate to or explain some feelings in your waking life. I would love it if you commented or contacted me with any other dreams/symbols that you would like to understand more about - I have so much information that I would love to discuss with you guys. I hope you enjoy learning about the following examples of popular dream symbols:
1) Forgetting to prepare for an exam/presentation
Despite school days being left behind, many adults frequently experience dreams of forgetting to study for a test or failing an examination. This can be extremely anxiety inducing, which may feel unusual when examinations are completely irrelevant to your waking life. In actuality, this dream is a symbolic reminder that we may be living our lives in a constant state of self examination. It may be a subconscious alarm that you are being particularly critical on yourself at this time in your life, encouraging you to take a step back from endless self-examination and appreciate yourself for your present talents and achievements.
2) Cheating (on your partner & by your partner)
To dream that you are cheating on your partner, or that they are cheating on you, is frequently experienced by people all over the world. However, it is NOT an indication of cheating in waking life! To dream that you are cheating on your partner reflects self-betrayal; you may feel "cheated" in a situation where you compromised your beliefs or did not show the real you. Cheating dreams can also be nothing more than an exploration of your sexuality and passion. To dream that your partner is cheating on you reflects a fear of abandonment or a lack of self esteem; not necessarily within your relationship, but in any waking situation.
To dream that you are falling is another very popular dream symbol. I decided to discuss this symbol as last night I experienced a very vivid falling dream; in the dream I felt my ears popping from the pressure changes as I fell from an extreme height, and today my ears are actually very difficult to "unpop" - interesting! This dream can mean a number of things. You may be feeling overwhelmed and anxious in your waking life, or perhaps feeling worried about failing something. However, this dream can also have positive connotations; depending on how you felt during the fall, it may be a reminder for you to "let go" - a symbol of relief. Falling from great heights can represent a good period to start something new, and that you may be praised and promoted in your waking life (I have had a weekend of something very new and that I feel I was praised for, which fascinates me considering my dream experience last night.)
It is also common for people to experience recurring dreams; between 60-75% of adults experience recurring dreams, women more than men. Interestingly, most recurring dreams are shared universally. They are said to be like "scripts" in the mind and reflect an unresolved issue within your waking life. This issue may not be directly represented by your dream, and it may be worth looking into the symbolism further. For example:
I recently had a reader explain their experience with recurring labour/pregnancy dreams - this is infact one of the most popular recurring dreams around the world. If your recurring dream focuses on labour, it is an awareness that your current goals are very achievable but will require hard work to accomplish. This may explain why so many young adults experience this dream when going through transitional life periods such as working on university projects or starting new jobs. It is a positive dream, acting as a reminder that you are capable and to stay on top of things. To see an actual baby (or perhaps a baby animal) in your labour dream is a gentle reminder to look after yourself too. It is hinting that you wish to be nurtured a little more, so to care for yourself whilst you work for your goals. If your dream focuses on experiencing pregnancy as a whole, it is simply to say an aspect of yourself or life is developing; for this to be a recurring dream it may suggest you are growing as a person quite significantly.
I personally experienced a recurring dream every single night during the summer holidays when I left primary school, whereby I would always see or hear the same lady jumping off a bridge and dying. Whilst this was traumatic, it was simply my mind reflecting my fears of the "jump" between primary school and secondary school, as this dream ended when I began secondary school and realised it was a positive place. Interestingly, in my summer between leaving school and starting university, I experienced a very similar recurring dream where a young girl would tap my arm for help before also jumping to her death. This again was reflective of my fears of the "jump", and the young girl was a representation of my inner young self's anxieties about "growing up".
These are just some examples of dream meanings and recurring dreams that will always be open to interpretation. If you have anything at all that you would like to learn more about or to discuss further, please get in touch as I would love to talk about these with you - it fascinates me to no end.
Thank you so much for reading - please do feel free to leave any comments so we can discuss your thoughts and experiences below! This is one of the first posts of a mini series of sleep phenomenas: the next instalment will be discussing the eery phenomenon of "Night Terrors". In the meantime, if you would like to read my post about "Sleep Paralysis" please click the link below.
Elisa Lam was a 21 year old student originally from Vancouver, who in 2013 began her solo tour around America. Lam arrived in Los Angeles January 26th 2013 and checked into the Cecil Hotel in downtown LA. This was the last place Elisa Lam was ever to be seen; last captured by the hotel's CCTV footage on the evening of January 31st 2013.
Lam was originally sharing a hostel room with roommates however they soon after requested she was moved elsewhere due to her odd and disturbing behaviour. This behaviour is captured in the hotel surveillance footage whereby she acts very erratically and as if she is hiding from somebody (who does not appear to be there in reality) and later displays eery hand gestures (shown at 2:00).
It is widely speculated that Elisa Lam committed suicide following a bipolar psychotic episode. It was originally believed that Lam's unusual behaviour towards an "invisible" being was as a result of drug induced hallucinations, however toxicology reports found no trace of recreative drugs. However, this fact does not dispute this explanation. Lam relied on medication for her bipolar disorder; and blood tests showed that whilst Lam had taken her antidepressants around the time of her death, she had not taken her antipsychotics for a while. Studies have shown that without antipsychotics to balance the effects of the antidepressants, bipolar patients are vulnerable to an increased risk of mania, which can be expressed in the form of hallucinations and paranoia. The suicide theory interprets Lam's behaviour in the lift as a result of mania and suggests she may have climbed into the water tank to "escape" from someone or something she believed to be after her and drowned, leading to an accidental suicide.
However, critics of this theory raise doubts surrounding Lam's ability to reach the water tank alone. The Cecil Hotel is laid out in such a way that it is seemingly impossible to access the hotel roof (where the tanks were situated) without setting off any alarms or without a staff access card. This means for Lam to reach the water tanks by herself she would have needed an elaborate route plan, which does not make sense with the mania theory for she would not have been able to predict or plan for this situation. Additionally, it is sceptical how Lam would be able to lift a 20lb lid after climbing a 10ft ladder into the water tank, and then pull the 20lb lid back over the tank; especially as the autopsy results showed no signs of struggle or strain.
The implications of the suicide theory lead to a second theory that suggests Elisa Lam was murdered by a hotel staff member. The Cecil Hotel had a poor reputation due to high rates of crime, deaths and suicide. The theory argues that Lam was not hallucinating; rather there was a genuine individual chasing her, and one who knew the positioning of the cameras and therefore how to avoid being picked up by CCTV - knowledge only a staff member is likely to know. This would explain why Lam hides after checking outside the lift, and why the lift doors do not close as somebody may have been obstructing them. In addition, the CCTV footage had been tampered with before the police had access to it, for it had been slowed down and a minute of footage is entirely missing. This serious contamination of evidence leads to the theory that the hotel staff may have wanted to protect the perpetrator, and therefore adjusted the speed to make her behaviour appear "odd", and deleted the footage where the staff member(s) may have accidentally been picked up by CCTV. This also would explain how Lam reached the water tanks without setting off any alarms, and how the lid managed to be lifted back over the tank.
Despite this theory resolving many implications of the suicide theory, it is important to reinforce the fact the autopsy showed no signs of struggle or physical trauma. Arguably, this disputes the murder theory to quite a considerable extent. There also does not appear to be any clear motive for anybody to murder Elisa Lam. There is another theory that I will not go into in this post, however it aims to resolve this point by suggesting somebody may have been hired to murder Lam as a cover up for a failed drug trial for TB. This drug kit was coincidentally called "Lam Elisa", suggesting the murder may have been planned (or made up entirely) so that when people searched for those terms they would only find knowledge about a mystery murder as opposed to the failed drug trial. Whilst I personally do not believe this theory, there is a huge amount of evidence and theory to it, so I would be happy to discuss this with anybody or provide you with some literature if this is of particular interest to you.
3. Korean Elevator Game
Whilst the debate between suicide and murder surrounding the death of Elisa Lam is significant, there is also a host of paranormal explanations - one being that Lam was attempting the "Korean Elevator Game". This is a game whereby players follow a set of elevator rules to ultimately enter a second dimension filled with hatred and evil spirits. Some believe that Lam may have been interacting with a paranormal being in the elevator which could have possessed her mind leading her to her death, or that she was traumatised to the point of suicide whilst trying to escape this second dimension. Whilst I personally am very skeptical of a paranormal explanation, I decided I would include this theory as it is fascinating how closely linked the rules of the game and Lam's behaviour are - it is worth looking this up further for an interesting read.
There are many many more theories as to what happened to Elisa Lam, with a noticeably high amount of paranormal theories in this particular case. I personally am most inclined to believe it was a suicide, theorising that her solo tour may have been a very sad escape. Lam was very open about her struggles with mental health on her social media accounts (which I do believe can still be reviewed if anybody would like the links); therefore whether this was a psychotic episode or a case of depression heartbreakingly developing into suicidal thoughts, I do believe this is the most credible theory. I am more inclined to believe it was a planned suicide due to the striking similarities between this case and the movie "Dark Water". This 2005 horror movie shows the death of a young girl from drowning in a water tank on the rooftop of an apartment. In this movie footage of the girl in an elevator is remarkably significant, just as it is to the Lam case, and she is shown getting to the water tanks via a certain route that prevented setting off any alarms. Probably the most striking similarity is that the girl in the movie and Elisa Lam were wearing almost identical clothing around the time of their "deaths".
I believe the similarities are chilling, and whilst they may be a big coincidence, I do think the possibility that Elisa Lam was recreating this movie therefore resulting in her death should definitely be considered. However, I still am very very conflicted by a lot of theories and would LOVE to discuss your thoughts and opinions too, and perhaps discuss some of the other theories I didn't mention in this post.
Thank you so much for reading, and please do feel free to leave any comments so we can discuss your thoughts below!